Extend the good within you without keeping deadlines
This idea has been a challenge to me for a long time. Time after time, I have tried to toe the line between offering assistance and keeping my mouth shut.
More specifically, when should I offer a word of advice when I think it may be beneficial.
There were multiple hang-ups that I had to deal with.
- I don’t understand their situation so I cannot condemn their action/inaction
- What good will actually come from sharing my insights? Could I be wrong?
- I am scared of how they might judge me by sharing my truths.
These are some of the common variables that go through my mind prior to a decision.
My purpose is not to provide the reader with a blueprint for solving this equation but to provide a segue to a noteworthy issue.
There are a few people in my life who have been rightly or wrongly, been a source or part of my frustrations over the last few months.
Let me explain…
They are people who I have empathy, compassion and care for dearly. With that prefaced, I need to mention that they have also requested advice from me on a regular basis.
While sharing my truths, I have tried to remain objective to the facts at hand while applying subjectivity with respect to the person whose feelings I may hurt.
Provided I played my cards right, I have found it increasingly difficult to continue to offer words of potential wisdom.
Reason being…
- The same questions are being continuously asked
- Very little action is taking place, as far as I can tell.
I have titled this blog inaccurately for the purpose of testing whether my position is more reasonable or the title provided.
Is it best to continue to remain patient and provide energy to those who don’t seem to be making use of it?
Or should my energy be pulled back to allow them time to develop and grow at their own pace?
I do not know the answer to these questions.
Please let me know what you think?